The Secure Collective

 

Your home for healing anxious attachment & building inner security

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You’re tired of the constant second-guessing.

The waiting.
The wondering.
The way distance makes your chest tighten and your thoughts spiral.

You tell yourself to “calm down”,
but your body doesn’t listen.

You try to be secure,
but when the relationship feels uncertain, you lose yourself.

The Secure Collective exists for this exact moment.

Not to fix you.
Not to rush you.
But to build your inner security so that you feel calm and confident within yourself, no matter what they do.

This is not just another program you have to keep up with... this is a place you get to land.

 

Inside The Secure Collective, you get the space to learn how to:

  • Stay grounded when you’re triggered

  • Soothe anxiety without needing their reassurance

  • Stop betraying yourself just to make the relationship work

  • Set boundaries without guilt

  • Trust yourself to know the secure response and actually do it (instead of hold back out of fear of scaring them away)

 

If you have anxious attachment, this might feel familiar:

  • You overthink texts and tone shifts

  • You notice distance and immediately blame yourself

  • You silence your needs to keep the peace

  • You crave closeness but don’t feel safe asking for it

  • You know what “secure attachment” is, but can’t seem to live it

There is nothing wrong with you.

Your system learned to hold on tight to relationships, even when there was uncertainty, even when your needs were going unmet, or even when you were being mistreated.

Inside The Secure Collective, we’re here to teach it a new way.  You're hear to learn the secure way to handle inconsistency or conflict that does NOT include one more second of self-betrayal.

You're hear to build relationships that don't require you to shrink, minimize your feelings, or walk on eggshells.

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Inside The Secure Collective

 

At the heart of the membership is The Attachment Reset System, a 5-part healing pathway you move through at your own pace and return to whenever life activates old patterns.

PHASE 1: ANCHOR

Calm anxiety in your body, no matter what they do.

This is where everything begins.
You’ll learn how to regulate your nervous system when you’re triggered, so distance, mixed signals, delayed texts, or uncertainty no longer hijack your emotions or self-worth.

Instead of reacting from panic, you learn how to come back to yourself, quickly.

PHASE 2: SOOTHE

Create emotional security within yourself.

Anxious attachment isn’t about “being too emotional".
It’s about overly relying on other people's approval or validation to feel calm.

In this phase, you’ll learn how to feel your emotions without being overwhelmed by them, so you stop needing reassurance texts or external validation just to feel okay.

You become your own source of calm and security.

PHASE 3: NOURISH

Ask for what you need & stop apologizing for it.

Here, we shift out of self-betrayal.

You’ll learn how to identify your true needs, honor them, and communicate them clearly, without guilt, fear, or over-explaining.

This is where you stop shrinking yourself just to keep others happy or make the relationship work.

PHASE 4: PROTECT

Build boundaries from self-trust, not fear.

Boundaries aren’t barriers to relationships, they’re self-respect in action.

In this phase, you’ll learn how to set and uphold boundaries that protect your peace, your energy, and your emotional safety, without worrying about being “too much” or pushing people away.

Your boundaries will allow you to stop tolerating what makes you anxious and start choosing what feels safe.

PHASE 5: BECOME

Embody the secure version of you.

This is where everything integrates.

You untangle your self-worth from other people’s behavior.
You trust yourself deeply.
You stop seeking validation to feel okay.

You don’t try to be secure anymore, you are.

This is not a collection of tips or coping strategies.
It’s a repeatable system that teaches your body, emotions, and identity how to operate from security, so healthy relationships become natural, not forced.

This is how anxious attachment actually heals.

 

What Makes The Secure Collective Different

Most healing spaces focus on insight.

This space focuses on embodiment, practice, and inner security.

You won’t be told to:

  • “Just detach”

  • “Stop caring”

  • “Be more confident”

Instead, you’ll be guided, gently and consistently, back to yourself.

This is where anxious attachment softens…
because you’re no longer doing it alone questioning every decision, you're getting a clear roadmap with check-ins along the way to get the clarity you need.

Imagine This Version of You

You notice their distance… and stay calm.
You feel anxiety rise… and know how to meet it.
You choose yourself, without fear of losing them.
You trust your feelings instead of questioning them.

Not because someone else changed,
but because you feel safe inside yourself again.

 

This Space Is For You If:

🖤  You’re aware you have anxious attachment patterns
🖤  You want emotional security, not emotional numbness
🖤  You’re done over-functioning in your life and you're ready to build relationships that don't require you to bend over backwards in order for them to work
🖤  You want support that feels grounded, compassionate, and real

 

This Is Your Invitation

You don’t need to heal faster.
You don’t need to be more disciplined.
You don’t need to have it all figured out.

You just need a place where your body can relax,
so change can happen naturally.

Welcome to The Secure Collective.

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The Secure Collective

Monthly Membership

$37 USD per month

  • The Attachment Reset Course 🎥 

  • Monthly LIVE Sessions

  • Daily Coaching Videos

  • Guided Meditation Library
  • Masterclass Vault
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Inside The Secure Collective you will also receive:

 

✨ Live Group Coaching Every Month
A safe, supportive space to process triggers, receive guidance, and experience co-regulation, without pressure or performance.

✨ Nervous-System Calming Meditations
To help your body feel safe again when your mind spirals.

✨ Real-Life Boundary & Communication Scripts
So you don’t freeze, over-explain, or second-guess yourself.

✨ Workbooks for Deeper Integration
For reflection, clarity, and integration, not busywork.

✨ Masterclass Vault
Deep dives on anxious-avoidant dynamics, boundaries, heartbreak, and emotional safety.

✨ Daily Mini Coaching Videos
To set your intentions for the day and give you one simple goal to focus on for the day

✨ On-Demand Access
So you can move at a pace that feels supportive, never overwhelming.

 

You're done going at this alone, you've found a place to be with you every step of the journey.

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💔 Break Ups 101: How to Grieve, Get Closure, and Move On
Learn how to process heartbreak in a healthy way so you can release the past, find real closure, and open your heart to love again.

🚫 Avoid Toxic Love
Break free from the pull of unhealthy relationships by spotting red flags early and building the confidence to walk away.

✨ Simply Secure
A practical guide to rewiring anxious patterns and stepping into the calm, grounded energy of secure attachment.

🤝 Conquer Codependency
Discover how to stop over-giving, reclaim your independence, and build relationships rooted in balance and respect.

🌿 The Art of Detachment
Shift from people pleasing and clinging to feeling confident and safe within yourself, no matter what others do.

🧘 Guided Meditation & Mindfulness
Calm your nervous system, release anxious thoughts, and come home to yourself through simple, guided practices.

💡 Empowered Dating
Ditch the games and second-guessing, learn how to date with confidence, clarity, and self-worth.

🌸 Soothe: Create Your Own Inner Calm
Practical tools to self-regulate, manage triggers, and build an inner sense of peace you can return to anytime.

❤️ Relationship Rehab: Heal the Anxious-Avoidant Dance
Break the cycle of push-pull dynamics by understanding your patterns and creating healthier, more secure connections.

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Frequently Asked Questions:

  • Q: How is this different from therapy?

  • A: While therapy is valuable, The Secure Collective provides specific, actionable tools for developing secure attachment, resources to hold you accountable, and ongoing guidance in-between our live group coaching calls.

    Q: I'm not in a relationship right now. Is this still for me?

  • A: Absolutely! Developing secure attachment improves all your relationships - romantic, friendships, family, and most importantly, your relationship with yourself.

    Q: How much time do I need to commit?

  • A: You can participate at your own pace, but I recommend setting aside at least 1 hour per week to spend time with the material inside the membership.

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Hey there!

 

I'm Erica and I've been where you might be right now.

For years, I struggled with anxiety and abandonment fear, always seeking validation and feeling at the mercy of others' actions.

But through dedicated work and the right guidance, I transformed my life and finally became secure within myself.

Now, as a relationship therapist & dating coach specializing in attachment styles, I've helped hundreds of clients make the same transformation.

And I'm here to be your accountability partner and guide you along your own journey.

I can't wait to meet you inside!