The Secure Collective

 

Your home for healing anxious attachment & feeling at ease no matter what other people do

 

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You’re not tired of relationships.

You’re tired of how relationships make you feel.

You’re tired of:

  • wanting more… but worrying you're asking for “too much”

  • spiraling when someone’s energy shifts

  • needing reassurance just to feel calm

  • overthinking every little thing

  • worrying so much about what they think or how they feel

  • emotionally investing too soon… and always bracing for rejection

  • knowing better logically… but still spiraling emotionally

 

And what you actually want?

Relationships that feel calm.
Grounding.
Emotionally safe.

Not something you have to survive.

If you’re nodding, exhaling a little, or thinking “wow… yeah, that’s me”,
you’re exactly who The Secure Collective was created for.

The Secure Collective is the place for you to move from relying on other people to feel regulated to knowing how to internally anchor yourself

 

Most people think anxious attachment is a relationship problem.
It’s not.

It’s an internal regulation problem that shows up inside relationships.

When you’re anxiously attached, your sense of safety lives outside of you:

  • in their tone

  • in their consistency

  • in how fast they text back

  • in whether they choose you

So when something shifts, your nervous system panics, not because you’re being dramatic, but because your body learned that relationships equal safety.

And distance feels like danger. 

Feeling calm and at ease isn’t about getting people to stay, or like you, or validate you...

 

Why?

 

Because security doesn’t come from external reassurance.


It comes from being willing to lose what requires you to betray yourself.

 

That one shift changes everything.

When you become internally anchored:

  • your emotions stop swinging with other people’s behavior

  • you make decisions faster and with less second-guessing

  • your boundaries feel clean instead of guilt-ridden

  • your self-talk becomes neutral instead of self-critical

  • your nervous system stops scanning for rejection

  • you feel comfortable being a self instead of merging to feel safe

Not because relationships suddenly become perfect, but because your sense of safety no longer depends on them.

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Get My Signature 5 Part Healing Framework

 

At the heart of the membership is The Attachment Reset System (10+ hours of video lessons) to move you from external regulation to internal anchoring.

 

This system is my 5-part healing pathway that you can move through at your own pace and return to whenever life activates old patterns.

 

You’re not binge-watching content.
You’re slowly, gently becoming secure.

SHIFT 1: ANCHOR

When anxiety spikes, you don’t spiral, you steady.

This is where you finally understand why you react the way you do, and learn how to calm yourself without chasing, collapsing, freezing, or shutting down.

You’ll start to:
âś” stop spiraling when energy shifts
âś” feel steadier when things feel uncertain
âś” relax instead of bracing
âś” experience peace instead of panic

This is where your nervous system starts to feel like it can exhale.

SHIFT 2: SOOTHE

You stop feeling like their behavior controls your mood emotions and you start trusting being in control of your emotions.

Big feelings stop feeling dangerous.
Vulnerability stops feeling risky.

You’ll learn how to:
âś” stay present with emotions instead of drowning in them
âś” stop collapsing into fear or shame
âś” soothe anxiety without needing someone else to fix it

This is where things start to feel lighter.

SHIFT 3: NOURISH

Ask for what you need & stop apologizing for it.

You’ll start to:
âś” recognize what you actually need (without second-guessing it)
âś” express needs without over-explaining or panicking
âś” stay connected to yourself and others at the same time

Your needs stop feeling “too much.”
They start feeling… human.

SHIFT 4: PROTECT

Boundaries stop feeling scary and start feeling grounding.

No more over-functioning.
No more chasing clarity from people who can’t give it.

You’ll learn how to:
âś” protect your energy without guilt
âś” stop bending yourself to be chosen
âś” choose your peace without losing connection

This is where your energy starts coming back home to you.

SHIFT 5: BECOME

You stop trying to be secure and start living as someone who is.

This is where things click.

You begin to:
✔ untangle your worth from other people’s behavior
âś” stop needing constant reassurance
✔ trust yourself again — deeply
âś” feel emotionally steady more often than not

This isn’t effort anymore.
It’s embodiment.

 

Inside The Secure Collective you will also receive:

 

✨ Live Group Coaching Every Month
A safe, supportive space to process triggers, receive guidance, and experience co-regulation, without pressure or performance.

✨ Nervous-System Calming Meditation Library
To help your body feel safe again when your mind spirals.

✨ Real-Life Boundary & Communication Scripts
So you don’t freeze, over-explain, or second-guess yourself.

✨ Workbook Library for Deeper Integration
For reflection, clarity, and integration, not busywork.

 ✨ Daily Mini Coaching Videos
To set your intentions for the day and give you one simple goal to focus on for the day

✨ On-Demand Access
So you can move at a pace that feels supportive, never overwhelming.

 

You're done going at this alone, you've found a place to be with you every step of the journey.

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Security isn’t created by being chosen.

 

It’s created by choosing yourself, even when that means losing what can’t meet you.

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The Secure Collective

Monthly Membership

$37 USD per month

  • The Attachment Reset System (5 part healing framework with 10+ hours of video lessons) 🎥 

  • Monthly LIVE Sessions for ongoing support, Q&A, and deeper integration

  • Daily Coaching Videos to keep you on track

  • Guided Meditation Library
  • Workbook Library
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What Makes The Secure Collective Different

Most healing spaces focus on insight.

This space focuses on embodiment, practice, and guidance every step of the way

You won’t be told to:

  • “Just detach”

  • “Stop caring”

  • “Be more confident”

Instead, you’ll be guided, gently and consistently on HOW to feel secure within yourself, no matter what other people do (or don't do)!

This is where anxious attachment softens…

because you’re no longer doing it alone questioning every decision, you're getting a clear roadmap with check-ins along the way to get the clarity you need.

Imagine This Version of You

You notice their distance… and stay calm.
You feel anxiety rise… and know how to meet it.
You choose yourself, without fear of losing them.
You trust your feelings instead of questioning them.

Not because someone else changed,
but because you feel safe inside yourself again.

 

This Space Is For You If:

  • You crave connection but panic when it matters

  • You overthink, over-give, and over-analyze

  • You feel grounded when someone is close… and dysregulated when they pull away

  • You’re tired of chasing, shrinking, performing, or proving

  • You’re ready to feel calm, rooted, and safe within yourself

If that’s you, you belong here.

This Is Your Invitation

You don’t need to heal faster.
You don’t need to be more disciplined.
You don’t need to have it all figured out.

You just need a place where your body can relax,
so change can happen naturally.

Welcome to The Secure Collective.

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Frequently Asked Questions:

  • Q: How is this different from therapy?

  • A: While therapy is valuable, The Secure Collective provides specific, actionable tools for developing secure attachment, resources to hold you accountable, and ongoing guidance in-between our live group coaching calls.

    Q: I'm not in a relationship right now. Is this still for me?

  • A: Absolutely! Developing secure attachment improves all your relationships - romantic, friendships, family, and most importantly, your relationship with yourself.

    Q: How much time do I need to commit?

  • A: You can participate at your own pace, but I recommend setting aside at least 1 hour per week to spend time with the material inside the membership.

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Hey there!

 

I'm Erica and I've been where you might be right now.

For years, I struggled with anxiety and abandonment fear, always seeking validation and feeling at the mercy of others' actions.

But through dedicated work and the right guidance, I transformed my life and finally became secure within myself.

Now, as a relationship therapist & dating coach specializing in attachment styles, I've helped hundreds of clients make the same transformation.

And I'm here to be your accountability partner and guide you along your own journey.

I can't wait to meet you inside!